One day i was having a lunch where there’re a bunch of girlfriends and two married men.
MM1 (married man 1) jokingly made a remark that MM2 has many girlfriends in Guang Zhou. Surprisingly, MM2 just chuckled. Never denied.
Then MM2 turned around asked me “If the dog is barking at the back door, and there’s someone calling you at the front door, which door would u open?”
I was stunned for a while, not knowing what he means.
Then he continued, answering his own question, “of course i’ll let the dog in. at least it wags it’s tail and jumps at you, whereas the person at the front door will just nag nag nag and nag…”
I was flabbergasted.
He compared his mistresses to dogs. W. T. F.
MM1: he’s damn good at this man, i envy him so much.
MM2: *chuckles*
MM1: his wife ah, always think that he’s suffering in China, no food to eat, cant sleep well, when he’s happily screwing all his girl friends around.
MM2: *chuckles*
Men.
*makes a nauseous spit*
Why do married men always have so much to say when they fall out of love?
Men, no matter how loyal, faithful and crazily in love with you (or so they seem) in the beginning, some day, maybe 5 years down the aisle, they will still hungrily jump at young, pretty beings. I’ve been seeing so many people getting divorced, having affairs and cheating on their partners and telling lots of lies. Seen it all WITH MY OWN EYES.
And that has utterly shattered my faith in marriage. Call me a pessimist but i’ve seen too much of these for me to believe in fairy tales. How do i move on and get married, knowing that at the end of the day, the person closest to me will be out fishing young chicks, like what i’ve seen when i was their age?
Why in men, especially when they are rich and successful, does their resistance to sexual allure become weaker? Or is it simply because they are greedy? Or maybe it’s just a midlife crisis thing? (Speaking of midlife crisis i have so much to rant about again but that’s another story, maybe next time.)
Quote from MM3:
“Falling in love is easy… staying together is difficult. It takes really lots of effort to stay together. Familiarity really breeds contempt. Some blame it on money. I dunno… maybe. I think a couple must move at the same pace and direction. It’s easier when you are moving slow and don’t have many paths to choose from. When everything is moving so fast and opportunities keep flashing before your eyes, that’s another story. People keep giving in to temptations.”
Is it true or are they just plain excuses?
A girlfriend of mine got to know a man. They got along well until she found out that he’s married.
MM4: I suppose most people, including you, will consider me crazy. I don’t need to be drunk to tell you, i love you. But unfortunately, you know fate has stopped our relationship from getting any further.
Girl: WTF are you talking about. You’re MARRIED!
MM4: Sigh, but do you believe that I love you?
Girl: Bullocks. I freaking don’t believe. Especially when it came out from someone who has a wife.
MM4: Yea… that’s the problem. Very difficult to convince u, when i can’t give up my life here. Usually need to prove it.
Girl: You men are just greedy creatures who are never satisfied with just one.
MM4: I always think that u rather believe that i don’t love u, that I’m always telling a lie, so that u wont get hurt by me.
Girl: I don’t believe that a man can love two persons at one time. You can go tell your wife.
MM4: If I tell my wife, you will believe right?
Girl: No.
MM4: There.. you see. That’s why I said you chose not to believe.
Girl: You tell me. How do I bring myself to have faith in someone who constantly cheats on his wife?
MM4: True.. that’s the catch. If i m A I can’t be B n if i m B i can’t be A. Anyway, when i said that i loved her many years ago, i did really love her damn lot. Even willing to cut my flesh for her.
Girl: Fickle dick.
MM4: My dick wasn’t fickle at that time. Pretty straight forward.
Girl: BYE!
Where’s the faith?
Next time, when my boyfriend asks: “Will you marry me?”
I shall reply, “Name me three couples around us who are happily married for more than 5 years and i’ll marry you.”
Edit: Maybe, out of 100 couples, there’s one couple who really live happily ever after. If that’s you and your partner, remember that you’re truly blessed. I will too hope that i’ll be the one exception. 🙂
guys are crueeeeel!
It’s Chinese guys and Asia men in general because your society is more closed to sexual freedom and allowing youngsters to fuck around and discover their sexual liberation.
All these guys reach 40 and have probably only slept with 1-2 girls (discounting the hookers they also sleep with).
So they want to spread their wings (and their seeds a bit) so they sleep around, take mistresses, go to karaoke and live out their youth (which they missed out on because sexual liberation is not accepted and they were too busy studying).
In UK guys having mid-life crisis don’t take mistresses or fuck around, they get a sports car or a big bike because they’ve had enough of sleeping around when they were young and don’t desire that adventure when they are older.
Can’t blame you for your pessimism. There’s simply too much pressure and distraction these days for marriage couple to remain together. Best is don’t marry and don’t have kids, BE HAPPY!
sex keeps guys faithful ^^;
you are oh so right.
the problem is..men can’t resist hot chicks. as you get older, your aura increases. and you tend to attract hot young chicks who craves for matured men. and men can’t resist hot chicks.
agree on u tis.. but some couples who r very faithful 2 each other reli make me envy them.. good luck finding a faithful cheese.. : )
Fishy~
in the reality of love and marriage, being woman means we already lose by default.
All i wanna say is there are equal numbers of bad guys to bad girls…. only that you hear stories about relationships gone bad more often…..coz….there’s not much juicy substance for gossiping about from a healthy relationship….
shit happens in relationships………..but i believe true love still exists in this world..
I agree with sheon, it takes two people to make it work. And you wouldn’t believe how many relationships I know of(not married couples, but still relationship wat) that fell apart because the *girls* cheated. Men are not the only gender who can cheat.
betty: exactly my point! thank you.
speechless…agree.
Something similar to what ST had posted…
There was these saying that goes like, “If men don’t eat outside food, how would they know if home cooked food is the best?” and continued with, “All I need to do is wipe my mouth after I’m done.”
And another reply would come in defense, “I’ve eaten enough outside food to know that home cooked meal is always the best” and continued with, “I rather stay safe then to lau sai (hokkien for diarrhea) later.”.
it takes mutual love, sacrifice, respect, understanding to hv a happy & healthy relationship, sadly sometimes destiny/fate intervenes or shit happens.
Sometimes choices can be made but sometimes circumstances turn things around
Myself have seen many shattered marriages. I’d say, better be a flexible person & take things in a positive stride since life itself is bittersweet.
There is no need to put oneself in a : ‘i’m-not-sure-about-marriage / i’m-against-marriage / i’m-desperate-to-get-married mindset.
No one knows the future. Whether single or in a relationship, cheerish everyday, try your best, have fun along the way and if life give you lemons 🙁 ….. hold your head up high and say – I’ve tried my best ! >.
.. eh … my typings got cut-off !!
all in all :-
* sweet experiences nourishes the soul and gives one sense of self
* bad experiences make you wiser, navigate in life better
I hope you got yourself a guy that is the 1 out of 100 🙂
Wow, alot of people are disillusioned about Love, True Love. It exsist. One just has to be aware of the pitfalls along the way. Very rarly does a person find true love the first time. Laly is my Fourth serious relationship. I feel she is my last. Maybe it took awhile for me to become 1 out of 100? Have Faith. p.s. Laly knows about my past relatinoships.
I think it’s possible for couples to live happily ever after. We just have to believe. Of course it takes two hands to clap. Faith… I do believe in that.
Its so call life, as we know life ain’t easy and smooth, and unfortunate things always happen, but we have to be positive, and move on to search for our forever love, that’s our target in life, if not we can now sitting at bar and drink graveyard or maybe end of the day.
No one can give u life, but u.
Don’t talk about China that far, in Malaysia, I just don’t understand girls like married man much more than a non-married man. This is why a married man never deny he has married and have plenty of girl friends, because he will me having more girl friends after he announced that he was married. Is this man’s ego or girls ego to have the married man????
I just don’t understand girls. Married man looks more attractive or she just like to prove that she can attract even a married man?????
Anyway I am still non-married.
my father mother is married for more than 20 years, they happy not happy i donno, but still married is gud enuf, yeahhehehe
Well, it is true….it takes a lot to make the marriage last. Even my own daddy had disappointed me. It sort of left scars and doubts inside me on whether a marriage will last or will it just be a 5 minute thingy until new distractions come.
One of my fren told me that her mom actually let her dad to go to China to find hookers once in a blue moon to satisfy his needs. The things women has to do at times. My own mom who knows what happened all these years are in denial all these while for the sake of her children.
I am confuse myself. I am happy for my friends who had tied the knot…but, in the long run, who knows what will happen?
ShaolinTiger is right, I think it depends a lot of the mentality of the society and the culture. Well, let’s see
I hope i am the one exception also….I hate lies….
Girls nowadays is not as faithful as i have thought to be too.
I have make friend with someone that lie to me from the first day until the last day….for more than 2 years….and i am not gonna find her again forever….
I AM a ‘pretty’, young thing.
My boyfriend still cheated.
Where’s the logic in that? 🙁
Erm so Cheesie needs to marry a cheese for a perfect marriage…
But then again can she keep it for 5 years or more without eating it? xD
I disagree with ShaolinTiger’s generalisation. The problem of bad faith exists in all societies. One might as well make the generalisation that east asian women do not enjoy sex or see it as a bloody chore – which is another big generalisation.
However, I tend to agree with his generalisation regarding asian (east asian, particularly chinese) sexuality.
In regards to this story, I could easily write my own about cheating women. With men, cheating is very straight forward with the focus on sex. When women cheat, the destruction and flagrancy with which they do so is as bad as the men and also focused on intimacy as well.
And men are perfectly able to resist temptation. Its the boys who cant keep their dicks in.
i agree.. i don’t even know whether to believe in love anymore, if it’s all superficial..
Bravo. Exactly what I have been ranting in my blog too.
Men are jerks. They should just admit they have a problem then take steps to DEAL WITH IT.
I used to think true love is enough keep a marriage happy, until I found out my dad is having an affair and cheating on my mom. I don’t know if he still loves my mom, but they are still married after 3-4 years of the affair. Maybe it’s the midlife crisis thing….but what is love then? Will love just die out after a while? Will his affair end when this “love” dies out too? Who knows… and we thought adults were supposed to be the matured ones.
It’s hard to understand these things, until I guess, when you’ve seen it with your own eyes, happening in your own family. I see where you’re coming from Cheesie, I hope to be the one in a 100 couples that are happy too………..but it’s still scary to be able to believe that things will work out forever.
Men think with their wrong heads, no matter how good, moral and nice they are…because things can change easily when you flash them some boobies or something of that nature.
ShaolinTiger:
“It’s Chinese guys and Asia men in general”
“In UK guys having mid-life crisis don’t take mistresses or fuck around”
Are you cheesing kidding me?? You have no proof at all behind your vacuous and racist statement, even “in general”. No single nation has the monopoly on being unfaithful. In the UK, BOTH men and women fuck around. PRINCESS DIANA fucked around, PRINCE CHARLES fucked around. What an ignorant bastard.
some man/women cheat bcuz they simply want to hump around 😡 their privates itchy ! 😡
but some fall into extra affairs because of circumstances – i m not condoning or saying that circumstances should justify affairs. couples should be loyal to each other from the heart
Myself have been crashed and burned by love a few times 🙁 but my door is still open to that special some who i may or may not meet ;p
live goes on .. its good to be paranoid about love sometimes to protect yourself but then again no point fearing all the time instead of living a life
just treat your partner as a good friend and do fun activities together but still give pivacy to each other… i think this’ll work maybe… unless the guy do not love the guy anymore…
One woman is more than enough for me.
The odds does sound terrible but don’t get your hopes dow. You could be that one in a million after all 🙂 And hey, if you think heterosexual couples get it bad, imagine how terrible when you have two guys in a relationship.
Emm….I agree with your points but to be fair the wife also needs to own up to the husband’s behaviour too. I see most of those pretty and cutie gals who were so loving and gentle in the beginning turn out to be a disaster after marriage. They no longer keeping themselves looking good and they started nagging. No wonder the husband find those young gals attractive. If a couple after marriage could still maintain how they look in each other’s eyes, then they are truly blessed. I’ve seen many, so there is TRUE LOVE after-all!
Thank you for all your insightful thoughts. Cheese of the day really. 🙂
not trying to be rude, but just wanna know if your parent have separated?
if it’s true then i totally understand your concern.
take it easy girl, i’m sure you’ll have a happy marriage.
Here’s a funny caveate especially since I’m married.
There are many wonderful reasons for people to get married. Falling in love is not one of them. I’ll try to elaborate.
In literature especially christian Literature from the Middle Ages the stories oftern dwell upon two type of love.
Amour and Caritas.
Amour which means Courtly Love could be interpreted today as Lust or maybe even Sexual Attraction however it is a lot more complicated than that and would require an explanation which is beyond the amount of time and text available.
Caritas or latin for Charity can also mean Virtuous love or an unconditional love though this is an imperfect meaning at best. It also means or interprets as loving kindness or the giving of love to others. The parents sacrificing their freedom and time to ensure their children grows up healthy is an example of Caritas.
Now men today is bombarded by the ideal of marriage which is based on Amour while women is taught the ideal of marriage through Caritas. Thus you find a lot of situations where men cheat on their wives and try to justify it with moronic selfish comments like the one you have experienced.
So love as in the form of Amour is not the love that people should decide that they marry each other, however more often than not in todays society that is the love that people choose their life mates on.
ok cheesie dont giove up on guys…I will always wait for you hehehe =P. anyways it all depends besides you cant really put all th eblame on the guy its unfair to him…….I mean guys who are at the mid life crisis face the most relationship problems is because most guys at that age would have a certain amount of success , money etc and girls crave for things like that they call it security sense…….
So they go out show some boobies and fuck the guy saying that she doesnt need commitment just need maintanance….lolz……….which guy dun want if he got money?????
that also does not mean he dun love his wife he still does but he was seduced and tempted to do the girls he dreamt of doing when he was young but didnt get the chance and now he is given the chance, of course he will jump at it……..
So part of this is girls fault too, why no body ask how come girls fall for RICH married men instead of good looking but poor young men?? see the logic?? when they are young they get looked down by hot girls and felt hurt, but when they are older made soemmoney hot girls turn up at their door steps, and say hump me baby hump me……….why doesn’t he wanna go for it?? of course go for it then he can satisfy his long lost dreams and get maximum satisfaaction…….
So why are everyone blaming the men here?? come on we do not need to tell who’s the BITCH here now dont we??? @@”
Sounds like a wholey selfish attitude there ‘CheesieFanBoy’. I pity what your wife will go through if you cheat on her later in life just to fulfill your long last dreams and getting maximum satisfaction by humping any hot girl who comes up to you. Its obvious a break up of a family wouldn’t matter to you at all.
Please don’t generalise by saying “what guy wouldn’t jump at the chance” because I can assure you that there are some who won’t. There are some guys out there who are actually responsible and actually want to lead a decent life and won’t let it be controlled by their dick.
“Cheesiefanboy” is the EXACT epitome of what Cheesie’s written in her post, the type you need to be careful of the most. Tsk tsk.
if those unfaithful guys just dig young hot chicks, then I consider being not so hot a blessing after all 😛
I had a friend who acted like a saint in front of hot gals but the way he talks about them in front of me is like a lusty old pervert… sheesh. MEN.
truly God-fearing guys are trustworthy. they are afraid to displease God, so they wont do unrighteous things, and will continue to love their wives as taught in the bible.
both husband and wife will truly love each other forever and stay faithful to each other because they are both God-fearing and they have the perfect love from above to love each other’s imperfections.
want to have a truly happy long-lasting marriage? have a close relationship with God, and let God prepare your other half for u. all u have to do is pray =)
I’m not like that, and my father’s not like that. Responsible men exist, just ask my younger sister.
UnMM
Eddie:
When you fear God, you do it out of fear; indirectly forced to do something out of your own will.
The only reason why people fear God is because he is the Almighty and He has the power to throw people into hell.
When people have a problem, that’s when they stick to God. They’re the God Band-Aid people.
“I used to cheat on my wife, but its okay.. .I believe in God right now.”
“I wanna thank God for my previous divorces, because he made me realize that they’re not the one I’m looking for.”
“Maybe He wants us to meet a few wrong people, before we meet the right one.”
and other people with the God Band-Aid would say.. “Oh yeah, s/he’s with God now. So s/he’s okay.”
People make mistakes. May it be of different colour, race or religion. It isn’t up to God to clean up your mess or help you start a new page, its all up to the individual.
You can go to church every Sunday and be Holly. But some do it just to clean up the sins they’ve made for the past one week.
This isn’t exactly a very fair statement to say that ‘truly God-fearing people are trustworthy’.
Actually, there is one true thing. Although man can be in love with someone, he can still think other ladies are attractive. Sure, there’s nothing wrong to think another lady is attractive but… giving in to weakness and having affair… not all men do like that. It’s disgusting.
Some men are weak, selfish and pathetic but not all of us are like that. Cheesie, you just have to find the right one, I think. And when you find him, I think you’ll know with confident feeling that he’ll never “cheat” on you.
Actually…………99% of men are weak towards seduction…..only 0.1% are not and they are monks…..even priest are peverted. Therefore it is REALLY REALLY UNFAIR to put all the blame on the guy….cuz just as much as women cant stand the temptation of not shopping, men cant stand seduction, its as simple as that, plus women have their fair share of being unfaithful as well, think about it, even if the guy thinks bout it but the girls dont go for them do you think anyhting would happen?? it takes 2 hands to clap………. well dont take my word for it check out this research paper and then only tell me that guys need to bare all the blame………
http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html
haih… depressing topic. men/women who cheat always comes up with excuses to defend for their actions.
i feel that love is over-rated nowadays. everyone does into a relationship expecting the love to last but they don’t realise that a love relationship is still a relationship. similiar to that we have with our friends, families, etc.
you hv to work at it to make it work. sometimes both the male and female in the relationship take this for granted. they think that because they’ve been together the small stuff don’t matter. but they’re so wrong. it’s the small stuffs that remind them subtly that they are love.
the man forgets to sends the woman small tokens of appreciation for all the things she does for him and she in turn forgets to thank him for the little things. it does matter in the long run. people like to know that their efforts are appreciated.
i dunno. i might b wrong cos i still hvn’t found wat i’m looking for. sceptical that i ever might even. jz givin my cheese’s worth… 🙂
Shaolin Tiger
In my experience I have noticed western men cheat just the same. In Asia, east, SE, I’ve met many western men who are out on business trips and have a fling while away from home.
It all depends on the individual. There are plenty men out there who are happy in their marriage. There are plenty of women who cheat on their husbands.
B*llsh*t, cheesiefanboy. 99% of men are weak towards seduction? Don’t pull good men down with you just so you’ll have an excuse. There are many good men out there who were brought up well and taught to behave responsibly. If you’re not one of them, then maybe it’s time you learnt to be.
I do agree with you though, about not blaming it completely on the men. Women, listen up. It’s partly our fault that our men cheat. Why? Because we let them! Because we tolerate it! Because we’ve been taught that ‘men have needs’ and ‘women need to be understanding’. This is just BS that we’ve been fed, so that men can cheat and say, ‘I can’t help it, I’m a man, it’s in my nature!’
It’s not. They cheat because society tells them they can. They cheat because they know they can get away with it. They cheat because we let them. Because we still accept them after they’ve cheated on us.
It’s not the men who are ‘weak’. It’s the women who accept them who are. (And vice versa for the women who cheat, of coz) If no one accepted the men who cheat, if no one tolerated them, if no one continued to love them after they’ve cheated, trust me, there would be a lot less cheating.
lix : the fear we refer in the term “God-fearing” doesnt mean “scared”
God-fearing just means ppl who honour and are obedient to God. and as christians we’re not supposed to be SCARED of God, but be fearful of God, as in know his commandments, be obedient to Him and try to please Him as much as we can. =)
and another important point, i really do agree with u saying that some ppl do whole lot of wrong things and then go to church on sundays to “clean-up”. well but nothing wrong with confessing their sins etc. but if ppl KNOW alrdy that doing certain thing is wrong but still do it that means they are taking advantage of God’s mercy. so thats obviously wrong.
so these ppl are not TRULY God-fearing ppl then.
the statement i made was referring to those who TRULY HONESTLY SINCERELY FEAR GOD(and that means loving God with all his heart/soul/mind & hence obeying His commandments) …they dare not take advantage of God’s forgiveness…they will not dare to do anything that displease God.
also, ppl who TRULY loves God, will obey His commandments out of their own will just to make their Father in heaven happy =)
when i say fear it means love+obey, not scared. =)
but ofcourse, we are all human beings. we have weaknesses etc. so that is why we as christians should and always have to spend time with God EVERYDAY to renew and recharge ourselves to have power to overcome temptations. through that, we will grow stronger everyday and will easily defeat temptations and slowly we dont even have to fight temptations anymore. =)
Seems like your Faith is going down the Hill…
It does take two.
Fickle, flighty, or fearful – they still search.
Eddie is right about spending time with God every day. All time works even better.
naVICgaTOR – Faith hill is a steep two way street. They do run cable cars these days though.
And her lyrics are good! ok, thats bad 🙂
Peace, Light, and Love to You All.
something for ponder….. a true “story”
click and listen to the man saying bullshit to justify his cheating:
http://www.betterloverseminar.com/desi_wife_catches_husband
This is a debate that can go on forever.
I just want to chip in for my 2 cents regarding this.
Married man involving with younger women are basically lust and most likely having problems with their wife.
The ugly truth is people’s mentality changes as they age (that includes all of us), only god knows how they will be like in the future. An Angel you meet today may or may not be the same person you know 5/10/20 years down the road. I’ve seen that happening with my own eyes.
Well, instead of blaming genes, greed, security or mentality, men or women. Let’s focus on the solution. What can we do? I’m sure both sides want their marriage to work, it’s just that things started to drift apart slowly and got too far apart and left it that way. A time bomb waiting…
LOL… i’ll b surprised if anyone here knows the answer.
My thoughts…
Cheesie, I don’t think you should be disillusioned by marriage just because of these unfaithful men. I don’t believe that all men are like that… though I think the numbers of them are growing.
I’ve been married for 6 years now.
Marriage takes alot of work. And there are so many factors which hinders it working out right.. like kids, work and etc. I’ve read that men and women have different expectation in marriages. Women tend to expect it always to be romantic and when it doesn’t… she gets disappointed. Men on the other hand tend to be the achiever and want to work hard to give to his wife and family. So when expectations not met… there’s problems.
I guess communication is very important too. Married people tend to take things forgranted because they see each other everyday and stop talking as much as when they were courting. Compliments become rarer and fault finding become more frequent.
As any relationship it’s constant work. Like with any friend… we have to becareful not hurt each other. We can’t take back hurtful things we’ve said. Marriage need care and nurturing… just like any other relationship.
got to agree with LA. must never b complacent. maitianance job must b well kept to keep the car running…. ooops i meant keeping a lasting marriage :).
well… good luck to all married couple.
Usually the pretty little things will be cheated on first. No surprise there. I don’t generalise but i’ve hardly seen less than beautiful girls getting cheated on. Maybe there’s some correlation there. I don’t know. You’d be surprised to find alot of pretty girls complaining of wondering bf or husbands. look around.
i dun believe that guys doesnt cheat no matter how good he is.almost every married man that i meet have mistress outside.Do they know that this will leave a scar towards their children?they are so irresponible!the mistress and de husband should be sue like the recent case!worst still,men had NO GUTS to admit it at times and push de responsible!
all man cannot be trusted. all women are liars.(go ask tengku Adnan,he’s the 1 who said this.) fair’s fair !
I feel so sorry for you, Jl, I have lots of married friends who are really faithful. You must be mixing with the wrong circle.
Can you let it slide? If a married man plays, it would be great if women don’t play along.
BurntRice: how do you KNOW they’re faithful? I know some perfectly nice guys who regularly cheat on their wives. They’re nice in every way but their brains are located in between their legs.
Betty: can’t agree more
CheesieFanBoy: very untrue generalisation about men being weak to seduction.
Cheesie: don’t give up on love. It really is the most wonderful thing to have. There’s no magic formula though. Both sides have to work at it. As long as you’re willing to, it can work.
I have been married 5 years and have had situations where I had been ‘tempted’. And as long as I have no problems with my spouse, the ‘temptation’, for want of a better word, really isn’t.
I think it’s normal in this day and age for couples to fall out of love. The old cliche communication is key is very important here. Never let it get to this stage. But when it does happen, anything’s fair, so long as they both have come to the realisation that they are out of love and accept it. Get a divorce if possible – tho sometimes staying together is more convenient.
get a guy with a taurus or capricorn in their venus… reduces this kinda chances a hell lot. but you know, these 2 are generally boring signs… so you’ll have choose, between a somewhat boring, but loyal guy and a somewhat romantic, but flirty guy… that’s life… you can’t have everything… and oh, venus represents career and love
Hayabusa: Capricorn is my greatest allergy. Fatal too. Also, who knows their venus sign?!
actually, you can go check that online… just get that person’s DOB, hour and also minute, go search natal chart in google and you’d find a site that’ll do the job… results’ god-damn zhun 1 you know… there are 6 signs to take into consideration, sun signs, like the horrorscopes we know now, really depends on the person to be accurate, which means most of the time they’re inaccurate… like me, i’m aquarius, but all my other 5 signs says other wise, i consider myself somewhat the rare kind cuz not much of anyone will have 6 signs all different. ok, if you wanna have a romantic guy for a boyfriend, DO REMEMBER to check his venus, sun can be deceiving, capricorns could have pisces for venus, or pisces could have capricorn for venus… you know what i mean right… but giving your DOB with the hour and minute can be quite dangerous, since people will then know your 时辰八字, and that also means you can do gong-tao on that person… wonder if any guy would give this particulars without second thoughts to a girl… but in your case, i guess a little bit of cheesy spell on them will already make them give you anything…
I’m sure you’ll be in the 1%. Have faith!