I was talking to mom.
“You know, being a dog is so sien!” she said.
“Why! How you know? You’re not a dog also,” I protested.
“I asked you not to get a dog. They are bored all the time,” she nagged.
“That’s why we have to shower them with care!” I said.
“But when you’re not playing with them, what can they do?” she asked.
“Exactly! See, they don’t watch tv, can’t play monopoly, don’t know how to go online, can’t gossip with friends,”
Okay, she made a point.
“And she needs me to play with her all the time, which is quite taxing leh.”
So mom asked if we should give Cheddie away. And i said why not.
Mom and daughter.
Goodbye my precious baby.
So mom asked if we should get another dog. And i said why not.
And i started asking around.
Friend: You really looking for a puppy?
Friend: Where’s Cheddie!
Friend: Why need another dog? Cheddie not enough for you?
Cheesie: I’m not enough for Cheddie.
Cheddie is no longer a companion to me. She has become my baby daughter. Who’s suffering severe separation anxiety.
My mom and I now have to be with her 24/7. There was one day mom called me up and said, “Cheddie is missing,”
My heart skipped a beat and I could almost understand how a heart attack feels like.
“I came back home and she was nowhere to be found,” she said.
It was a long story. To cut to the cheese, that day, mom left her alone in the house for a couple of hours, and she miraculously escaped from home (we don’t know how it was possible because the door and gate was properly secured) and ended up stray in the middle of the road and got picked up by an Indian family. We almost lost her forever. Anyway, luckily our neighbour recognized the car plate number so we managed to track down to the person who got her. Damn dramatic ok.
Since then, we will never let her out of our sight. I cannot afford to lose my baby.
The problem is, she has become annoyingly clingy. In another word, she can’t focus on any basic things at all when I’m not around. She can’t sleep, eat, drink, play. It’s as though the sole purpose of her fluffy existence is to find her mommy (and get a leash to tie her mommy with her if possible) and live happily ever after right beside her.
And that means, I can never leave her alone for more than 30 seconds to say, answer the nature’s call. The moment I shut the bathroom door, she will start barking and scratching the door with her front paws non-stop. When I thought I could finally go get myself a glass of water without being tailed while she’s deep asleep, I couldn’t be more wrong. Somehow she has an automatic censor for “mommy’s existence” even when she’s dreaming. She would anyhow anycheese be immediately alerted and lifts her messy chin up and looks my way. Then half-awake, she’ll quickly but groggily follow me into the kitchen, and come back out behind me. When I settle down on the couch, she’ll sleep again. This is my dog. She can’t even bear not seeing me for more than five seconds.
So then, I’ll have to be with her 24/7. I bring her out for dinner with me, go online at Starbucks together, do grocery together, go to saloon together. Great, now i watch dvds at home because I can’t go to the cinema.
And blog together.
Seriously, it is too much attention she’s needing that I can’t seem to give. Believe it or not I’m now typing on my bed and she’s scratching my hand and barking as if to protest “I thought it’s Cheddie and Mommy’s Fetch time!”
Please lo, i love dogs very much but i also have a job, and it is not puppy-sitting. I reckon she needs a playmate la.
So people, I’m looking for a new puppy, in desperate hope to reduce Cheddie’s emotional attachment to human beings.
I cannot afford an atas pedigree, so I don’t mind a mongrel without cert, but it mustn’t grow very big because I only have limited space at home, and I wanna keep it an indoor pet. I will give SPCA a visit soon but if you know any good deals, please let me know.
Wow, I’ve heard of human babies who cannot let their mother out of their sight. But, dogs? Totally weird. Maybe it’s because you spent too much time on her/with her/around her when she was a puppy and she just got used to it. I don’t think it’s necessary to get another dog just to be Cheddie’s companion. I mean, if you do, would the other dog become a second wheel or some sort? Can you guarantee you can give your second dog the same amount of affection and care as you give Cheddie? I doubt so. Unless the second dog is as cute and princessy as Cheddie is.
I have two dogs myself. One is the mummy dog and the other, her baby. I love both of them a lot but people always tell me that I love one more than the other (through their observations). What I’m trying to say is, you may not intentionally lavish more care and affection on one dog but sometimes, it is inevitable and it does happen. And what’s more? It’s totally out of your control.
Sorry, I may be overreacting a bit. I understand if others (non-dog lovers) may think I’m too sensitive, but as a dog lover yourself, I know you can see where I’m coming from right? 🙂
wow! she is really clingy then.. hmmm… boboie will leave me in peace when i’m online on my bd.. he’d just lie on the floor or just play with his own toys or maybe he’d sleep at one corner! 🙂 but anyway i think u really have to think it thoroughly before getting another dog.. i mean what if cheddie can’t get along with the other dog? or vice versa? or maybe cheddie is more attached to human instead? u really can’t predict if cheddie will leave u alone and give u your own personal time when u got the 2nd dog.. or maybe the 2nd dog might cling to u as well.. and won’t be more taxing to take care of 2 dogs?? to clean after them, take them for grooming, feed them, play with them and etc..
so u really have to consider about it carefully.. that was just my 2 cents 🙂 no matter what, it’s really all up to u 🙂 oh yea, i know how u feels for not able to go and do certain things/places with a dog around! like me, when i go out my mum will take care of boboie and vice versa.. it’s MY mum who make this rule.. never ever leave boboie home alone *sigh* boboie is one pampered doggie
hmm, i dun think its a good idea to get a new dog. i think it will do the total opposite. she might get jealous and be unhappy instead. for e.g. when u give ur attention to the new dog. jus my two cents.
puppy.com.my has a forum where there are quite a number of dogs up for free adoption.
Oh dear, this is what happens when people do not socialize and train their dogs when young. Cheddie’s behavior would not be tolerated if you’re in a western country. My 2 little Maltese’s do not have this problem and have been taught to get along with humans and other pets i.e. dogs, cats, sheep, miniature horses etc. Separation anxiety was my worst fear when I got Buffy as a working mum (she’s more attached to me than her daddy) but bless her! She follows me everywhere and whined when I left the room but with patience and time, she learned that I will always come back. I seriously think people should learn and do some homework before getting ANY pets and not pamper and spoil them like a human child which is WRONG. You may think you are smooching them with LOVE, yes, but do it appropriately and with discipline. We love our 2 girls dearly and spoils them but with certain limits like, we do not let them jump up and down on guests, or run like headless chickens on the beach, or barking stupidly at any moving objects. They are both well trained and we have no problem leaving them with granny when we go traveling.
Sigh, not nagging you hor, just my 2 cents worth. By the way, Samantha my 6 months old baby just got spayed yesterday. Recovering very well.
Do the right thing and have your pets spayed or neutered people! The world do not need anymore poor homeless puppies, kittens, rats, rabbits etcccc…
hi, can u tell me how to go online at starbucks?
there’s an icon at the right bottom “WLAN”, I just need to enable tt?
will it prompt me for id/password, where to register?
Send her to “Guard Dog School”
wah. you want to get another dog when 1 dog by itself also you cannot kautim liao. having 1 dog is a big responsibility. you should make sure your dog is properly trained first before even thinking of getting another dog lo. another dog means double trouble. you sure cannot handle 2 dogs cause you cant even handle 1. some more small breed dogs are damn easy to handle compared to larger breeds and you are already complaining liao. at the end of the day, dogs will be dogs. they should be properly disciplined. if you cant even discipline 1 dog, getting 2 dogs means your house will be havoc. then instead of curing the problem, you’ll end up with 2 dogs suffering from seperation anxiety. if you think by getting another dog its the cure to your problem, then you’re pushing away your responsibility. as her master you should make sure she’s a well mannered dog. you are being very irresponsible by trying to push your responsibility to another dog. then instead of curing the seperation anxiety problem, your 2 dogs will suffer a worst case of seperation anxiety. cause if got 2 liao, both sure very competitive. then you’ll lagi wont be left alone at all. instead of having 1 dog just clinging quietly to you, you’ll have 2 crazy dogs jumping and pawing you from the moment they see you
My dog used to be damn clingy when I just got her…
They said it was because of seperation anxiety. You know… take it away from its mummy, will get heartbroken right?
Ooh~ And cannot pamper it too much…
Will end up thinking its human…
Angel got that problem too. She refuses to sit on the ground- only on the sofa’s and chairs, and she wonders why we don’t set the dining table for her, she’ll bark till we let her eat off the table, refuses to sleep in her cage too. =.=
More upkeep than a boyfriend… 😛
I think you need to train her instead. Getting another puppy will just create more problems.
You are simply showing your dog with too much attentions, that cheddie got too used to.
Dogs are not attention seeking by nature. Perhaps instead of looking for another puppy to keep cheddie accompany, you might want to start training your puppy instead.
Just my 2 cents worth of thought…
awww that’s adorable! my doggie daughter doesn’t like sticking to me..everytime i ask her to sleep with me she will layan for like 5 mins and walk away n sleep on the floor or couch.
u could always check out PAWS as well if u happen to be around subang area. the adoption fee is cheaper too, RM50 for adults and RM80 for puppies..SPCA charges RM200, but why not if you found a dog of ur choice
i hope cheddie gets a new playmate soon! =D
I think getting a playmate/companion for Cheddie doesn’t sounds good. I agree with some of them who commented above and the fact is, you are facing the same problem as my eldest sister. My 7 years old pug, Brandy sticks with my sis like UHU Glue. My sis has to practically stay asleep as in lie down flat and shut her eyes, once she open her eyes, Brandy will start barking and scratch her feet. Exactly how she’ll sense my sis walking away when she’s sleeping!!! I think its too much, but the good thing is we have 5 people in the house and she gets to gila with all of us if my sis is not around, but she’s no as gila as when my sis around.
AND… The main reason of causing this UHU Glue situation is… My sis pampers and spoils her too much, no scolding no punishing. Seriously, this is the fact! Not sure if your situation is as serious cos this has been 7 years :d
When my sis is alone with Brandy, she’ll pee anywhere anytime, drag out the garbage, and even jumps on the couch! These are all the pantang larang in my house and she dare not do it when any of us is around… But my sis will not punish her, instead, she feeds her snacks in order for her to stop doing all those… Haiyohhhh *headache*
Oh ya, by the way, I saw an article from PetsWorld which says that owner should not make a big fuss (no bye bye Cheddie smooch smooch, I go la… U good girl ya) when you are leaving, instead you should just walk out the door by just petting them only.
Hi there Cheesie, I’m not sure but I reckon young dogs are pretty much clingy. My dog between yr 0 to 2 is extremely clingy and cant bear not having me by his side. but as he grows older, the independence slowly creeps in and no longer he whines and whines for hours when I’m out. The same thing happened to my friend as well.
I’m not sure for Cheddie though, but just wanna share my experience 🙂
You should always love your Cheddie, don’t ignore her…”the world needs more love”…can i get some? 🙂
I have a chihuahua teddy (male). If cheddie likes teddy, teddy can be her companion.
Getting a companion sounds good but choose a good companion. Those mongrel without cert might not be a very good idea to put up with Cheddie… RSPCA is a good place to get one… At least they know the details about the dogs they have…
yea…getting a playmate for cheddie would keep her from boredom…a male dog may be a wiser choice…i’ve heard tht 2 female dogs would not get along well…
Thank you for all your advices. Will give them a thought. Thanks for all your concern about the clueless mom and her baby maltese. 🙂
Jasmine: You are giving your Teddy away?
cheesie.. . you will need to cure cheddie of her separation anxiety. if you get another doggie who learns from cheddie and end up having the SAME issues, you’re just gonna drive yourself crazy….
dogs are pack animals, they do not like to be alone, getting 2nd dog will make her life more complete. try to get an opposite sex…they tend to get along more smoothly… good luck !
Ooo…an additional dog means more work for u and double the expenses…
heyhey, yupyup, all dogs r like dat, very clingy, jz like my new ( sorta ) pug, foreva attached to any1, if mum and dad not at home, she’ll come and manja wif me, anyways, if ur lookin for a companion fr cheddie, um, my mum know bout this website, it’s http://www.puppy.com.my accordin to her, got lotsa puppies for sales and stuff there, basically everything puppy related la, gud luck 🙂
Come come..I will adopt Cheddie! She oredi likes me n can be companion to Fatts, Mini-Mo and Mini-D 😉
Well I have to agree with the others who said that dogs are big responsibility. They need alot of care and attention but also discipline. I used to manja my dalmatian alot when he was young until one day he became too naughty. So I had to punish him sometimes. Like no food or scolding if he was too naughty 😛 After awhile he learnt his place and nowadays not as naughty. I still turn a blind eye to the occasional small infraction but anything BIG and BAD and he knows he is in trouble. hahahaha XD
P.S Dalmatians have too much pent up energy la 😛 So mega active.
Its great to hv more dogs, i hv 3 dogs they all get along really well together and they keep each other company when no one is at home… if u hv time and money…by all means..hv two or more!
Two dogs… double separation anxiety…pengsan~~
Better think twice lor… if your two dog always gaduh how?? Lagi teruk…
Think thoroughly before you get another dog… 😛
ya…. i will only give teddy away… if cheddie gets along with teddy.
but its a pity… if teddy was a maltese it’ll b perfect… for mating…
otherwise i’ll have to find another chihuahua for ted.
Jasmine: sent you a mail! 😀
whoa… this is the 1st time I’ve heard a dog tt clingy. She definitely needs a companion. if not u’ll have 2 end up bringing her everywhere u go at any time at all…
good luck in finding another pup.
sorry but I have no idea where to gt an ideal one =)
you made me feel like having a pet too!!!!
i want a pet!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11111 😀
love your new hair. =)
you need to send your dog to obedience school though. excessive clinginess is not healthy, and leh chey too.
its rather normal. try to put some distance between you and her and she will understand it. she will be independent if you try not to smother her with too much pampered love.
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you mentioned about Cheddie ran away when there’s no one at home… could it be he’s trying to look for its owner? …or maybe she only wants freedom… 😛
It’s actually a disorder called separation anxiety. Unfortunately, you are to blame. Fortunately, there are successful interventions.
Getting another companion may not necessarily work since the attention your pet wants is from you, not anyone else.
Thank you everyone for the tips and links. I’m reading up! 🙂
hi cheesie, u ve not replied me…..
wow i never puppy can be so clingy. anyway, i watched an uk tv dog show that mentioned something similar (except the dog is very very naughty) – I think you need to let her know that you are the master in this case. Many people treated their pets as their children (which I think I would too if cheddie is mine =p), this is not the exact right way (even children will be scolded or beaten) as a pet should always remain a pet (i know it sounds cruel…). And if this goes on, cheddie might go out of control as she grow older as she thinks she is on top of you and your family. hope this help =p
I have a friend who is selling off his dalmation puppies. (: But you said you don’t want anything big cuz of limited space. But if you are interested, let me know. (:
And yeah, getting another dog will probably eat up more of your time. Try not to get another dog of the same gender cuz they’ll get jealous, apparently.
Nice new hairstyle Cheesie 🙂
any cheeserland reader from Kuching that want to give away any puppies??? i need one…. email me plssss…..
BB: go to wireless network connection, then refresh network list. then choose the one you want to connect. Starbucks in Msia don’t need pw. I don’t know about SG.
These guys are doing a REALLY GOOD THING http://www.rescue2rehome.blogspot.com/
You should check them out. FOC on pets, unless you want to donate the price of spaying the dog (RM80, last I checked) back to the fosterer, so they can foster another homeless dog.
Zalina: Thank you very much for the link! 🙂
try some basic training to teach cheddie to be more independant?
they can be easily found online…
that’s how i taught my 6mth old beagle though…
cheaper than getting another dog(short run/long run)…
wah lao.. your dog damn cute weh…
Hey…. there is an animal clinic near my place (Balakong) going to give away a white miniature poodle (female)…. let me know if u want to have a look.. i will email u the add of the clinic…
Samsam: Yes please! Mailed you! 🙂
Aww, she’s so adorable….~ i reckon all malteses are cute..but this one seemed somewhat much cuter than a normal one. XD
And yes, You should consider getting her another maltese friend. 😀
Hi what country do you [cheesie] live in ? Just wondering . =]