Junya turns 14 months today!
Here’s what happened in the past month!
1. A Boy
I know i have said it many times before, and i’m likely to say it many more times in the near future, but last month, my baby has grown into a boy.
Even though he looks as baby as he always used to be.
He could walk at a speed where chasing is needed now. And, last month i was just saying how i dreaded one day he will just break off from holding my hands and run off. Well, he cannot run or speak yet, but he already doesn’t need me to hold his hand anymore.
And oh ya he can also walk backwards now (and he loves doing that to amuse us lol).
He is smarter, he has developed the ability to work the magic of his tinny little brain to think for himself,
2. A Rebel
and not just do what he is told. In fact the very opposite.
I thought Terrible Two is supposed to start at age 2?
He loooooves rummaging through my make up drawer and messing everything up. And i will put up one finger and warn him “Uh uh.” Soon enough he learnt how to use it back at me. When i say uh uh, he would stare right back at me fearlessly and say in a loud voice “AHHHHP“. That’s his version of uh uh right back at me.
And that is when i knew my uh uh has failed. T___T. Now i am alternating between ignoring him (while pulling my hair off silently then loserishly arranging back all my eyebrow mascaras), and pushing the drawer closed by force (then watch him go ballistic sitting on the floor).
On the other hand Little Big Boy now is independent enough to spend some time by himself.
I no longer have to wake up together with him. By 7am or even some other random hours he would climb off the bed and play little detective to investigate things in the room. First he would wake Champon up to be his loyal hound and follow him around to sniff /flip/ inspect things, and when he is done they will both come and wake us up. *yawn* Okokok baby.Good morning. Okok.
And he is also taking on new challenges and adventures.
Including camping at Champon’s den.
And also very kindly donated RM1 and his sunglasses to his favorite dog.
4. Ain’t no mountain high enough
His climbing skill is so fantastic now the can climb onto the roof top.
I’m not even kidding.
Roof top of Champon’s house in our bedroom. At least.
His favorite hobby is “pushing things around in the house”.
5. Table Manners (and the lack thereof)
Junya now can put his hands together when i tell him to say Itadakimasu, before eating a meal.
Just as i was feeling quite glad that my son now learns the concept of table manners, he started doing this.
The chao ah pek style come out liao T___T.
6. Meal times
I was quite surprised to find out at in Japan and some western countries, most parents do not give their toddlers formula milk after the age of one.
Most of the Japanese baby food recipe books state that follow-up milk (formula) is not necessary, in fact it is a better choice to get most of the nutrition from their daily meals, and replace formula/breastmilk with cow’s milk. Follow-up is only recommended when the toddler has an eating problem or is not getting enough nutrients from baby food.
But most of the parents i know in Malaysia are strong believers of formulas (once they wean the baby off the breast) and give formula to their kids as long as they can!!! I know some kids who are like 5 and still drinking formula!
I believe that it is maybe because our local cow’s milk has really low quality. Most local milk tastes like vanilla-flavored water. -__-
So Junya is still sticking to formula, but i do let him have Hokkaido Milk and he looooves it.
He has been drinking Meiji ever since i started him on formula, but at the previous check-up with the ped, Junya was suspected to have acid reflux, because at age 1 he still has random spit-ups quite often T__T. (Although at the time of typing it has gone away yay!!)
So last month i also started him on an anti-reflux formula from Morinaga that has this thicker texture to prevent reflux.
Annnnnnnd somebody finally accepts snacks.
He will now happily munch of biscuits, senbei, fruits… until he decided he has had enough of it then he will donate it all to Champon. I guess i should be glad that he is at least generous. XD
He has also developed a liking for soup and loves drinking it from his cup/soup bowl.
Miso soup, chicken soup, vegetable soup… 😀
YES BABY. YES MY GOOD BABY.
He was stuck at 7.6-7.8KG for like, half a year?!? And when he finally hit 8KG one day, the next day he dropped back down to 7.9KG, and i was secretly wishing he would poop in his diaper there and then so that it would make up for that 100gram and so that i could feel better lolol.
But really. I started getting all paranoid when his weight fell outside the growth curve. Is he not eating enough? Does he have digestion problem? Was it some sickness i couldn’t tell? Did i cook something wrong?! I got so worried to the point that i suspect his body was not absorbing anything i made him eat T____T.
But within this month he gained a whooping 500grams at one go!!!! CELEBRATION TIME! HELLO BRING ON THE STEAKS !!!
8. More words
New vocabulary this month includes: Tes (Yes), Milk Milk (which also sounds like Mama), Shoes, Fish , Ball Ball, Cat, Duck/Dog (cannot differentiate one from another, depending if he is speaking Australian or Manglish).
He could also shake heads to express “no” now, which looks like he’s doing hip hop dance because his whole body shakes together LOLOL. But after a few weeks of practicing now he’s almost perfecting the no head shake. Which is all he’s gonna do for the next 20 years.
So yea he gets a lot of scoldings nowadays because of point No.2 (see above), and usually he says AHHHHP to silence me. (If i say, that’s not very nice. Then he will say AHHHHP again, only louder T____T)
But one day.
One day, he rummaged through my accessory drawer as usual, and threw my sunglasses on the floor. I was very angry, i bent down to him and said, “Junya, this is mama’s sunglasses, you don’t throw it on the floor, okay?”
Guess what he did?
He said nothing (no AHHHP), he just walked up to me and kissed me on the mouth.
Where… where baby.. did you learn this from?
Oh right. From your mama.
I felt as if i was 16 and my secret crush just stole my first kiss. I was stunned frozen. The heart-racing but shockingly sweet feeling swept me over.
Immediately i thought OKAY JUNYA HERE ARE MORE SUNGLASSES FOR YOU.
I want more boys.
The ever so busy Papa has been consciously spending more time with his son, which made them a lot closer. Junya used to not even let him carry and would cry out for me, which made the danna really quite sad lol. But now they can play together and Junya will manja him sometimes.
Which obviously make Papa flower heart angrily bloom (心花怒放) lolol.
But when he says “Junya, call Papa!” Junya just goes “Mamamamamama”. So yea. I still win. XD
This is why i love boys.
1. Dealing with Seperation Anxiety
Mine. Not the baby’s.
The danna and i have ever left to travel together without Junya once when he was 3 months old. I was offered a cruise holiday (neither of us had been on one before and it’s sponsoreddddd so why notttttt but it was a cruise for 18 years old and above which main events were hardcore boozing and all-night-long rave in bikinis by the pool @@).
Instead of enjoying some quiet (hardly. I called the concierge for ear-plugs) times together as a couple again, we were so miserably missing our son that we bought a last minute flight the moment we got internet when the ship docked at Langkawi just to go back home 2 days earlier lolol. The parties would be the same. But our son will never be the same as the day before!!!! It was impossible to even think about being separated from him for a couple of days.
I said to the danna, “i will never go on a holiday without Junya ever again!!!”
But then few months later, i jumped at the chance to travel to Kanagawa. But because it was for work obviously i couldn’t bring my family. And the danna was like, “eh i thought you never wanted to travel without Junya anymore? So i see. You love Japan more than your son.”
I WHAT??? HOW DARE YOU. I WILL NEVER LOVE JAPAN MORE THAN….
He was right.
I… have no excuse.
Hey. But you cannot judge me liddis. Because Japan is my religion, and you cannot simply accuse a person for loving God more than her own children right? Same logic.
Anyway i have just taken another offer to go to Japan in Sep (to make regular pilgrim), without JunJun this time. (But but but!!!! After my work trip we will immediately to to Japan AGAIN for family trip! All is good!!!! )
Which i think it is time for the next point:
No i still have not weaned. Not because i am one of those parents who like to compete in how long they breastfeed their children, but because i keep failing to wean.
You may remember my post on sleep-training Junya earlier. Actually i failed. I let him cry-it-out, it was good for about like a week, and then all my effort and his tears went down the drain the moment i gave up and flipped my shirt open. Never in your life will you consider exposing your boob a failure would you?? (Unless you are Janet Jackson.)
It is especially hard these days as he would cry middle of the night, fully awake, looking for his source of comfort. I had to pretend to be sleep hugging a bolster tight against my chest. But he doesn’t buy that anymore. He is no longer a baby who cries out of hunger. He is expressive and he takes actions to get what he wants – by climbing onto me, prying my arms off my chest and pulling violently at my shirt while crying with a sniffling mama…milk milk….. T____T. I realized that it sounds very wrong and i had to stop this.
So for about a few days, i have moved him to his old crib (which ended up as a massive storage box for his toys -___-), and let him sleep alone there.
And fiiiiiiiiiiiinally, i get to sleep next to the danna again lolol (Junya was always in between us). But then the thing is, i was having massive withrawal syndrome -_-.
I told the danna, “i miss JunJun.” when he was sleeping in the crib next to our bed. Am i crazy? My separation anxiety is no joke lolol. I have turned into my own baby @.@
Anyway, the sleep in crib thing failed also, because i have decided to move him back to our bed. But this time *i* sleep in the middle. So when i want to hug the danna i turn to my right and i want to cuddle with JunJun i turn to my left.
The best of both worlds. Am i a genius or something!?
Everything is perfect again.
I reason with myself that it is because, i can sleep next to my husband for many decades to come until one of us is gone (touch wood), but i cannot sleep next to JunJun forever. Not even in the next couple of years T___T.
So i just want to do this as long as i can.
But i do plan to wean him off before i fly to Japan end of Sep! Do share if you have any tips on weaning a boob-addict.